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A.I. as Therapy: An Accessible Path for the Conflict-Averse

Writer: Martha Aguilar, LMFTMartha Aguilar, LMFT

image: ©Martha Aguilar, and Wix A.I. Image Generator


TLDR: Dive into the AI-powered GPTs (Generative Pre-trained Transformers) to boost your assertive communication skills. GPTs are like chatty, knowledgeable friends available 24/7 and are perfect for practicing assertiveness without judgment or fatigue.


Key Points:

  • Assertive Communication: Confidently express your needs and opinions while respecting others.

  • How GPTs Help: They offer non-judgmental, patient practice and help you be specific and clear.

  • Practical Use: Draft scripts for difficult situations or use GPTs in daily tasks to build confidence naturally.

  • Safety Tips: Protect personal info, use reputable platforms, and remember GPTs are tools, not therapy replacements.

Get started with our downloadable worksheet, complete with sample scripts and scenarios!


Hey there, brave souls,


Does the mere thought of saying "no" send shivers down your spine? Do you find yourself constantly accommodating others, even when it leaves you feeling frustrated and resentful? If so, you're certainly not alone. For many of us, setting boundaries and expressing our needs can feel like we're swimming with sharks. But what if there was a 21st-century solution to conquering these communication anxieties?


Introducing GPTs (Generative Pre-trained Transformers) - digital resources that can serve as your self-help bestie for enhancing assertive communication skills. Forget the days of freezing up when faced with what feels like conflict. GPTs can empower you to confidently express your needs, draft clear and concise boundaries, and finally ditch the "people pleaser" persona that's been gnawing away at your conscious.


What are GPTs?


Before diving into the nitty-gritty, let's clarify what GPTs are. GPTs are a powerful Artificial Intelligence (AI) tool that helps with various tasks,  particularly focused on language. Imagine a supercharged text generator that can hold conversations, provide information, and even help you draft that perfect email. Examples include Open AI, and Google Gemini. GPTs are like having a chatty, knowledgeable friend who’s always available. They generate human-like text based on the input they receive, making them versatile tools for various applications—including practicing communication skills.


Conflict Avoidance: The Struggle is Real


Many of us have experienced the discomfort of dealing with conflict. Whether it’s the difficulty of saying what you want or need, setting boundaries, or expressing your opinion, these challenges can lead to significant stress and dissatisfaction. Assertive communication is a helpful tool for these struggles. It involves expressing your thoughts and feelings confidently and respectfully, ensuring that your voice is heard without trampling over others.


Assertive Communication: A Quick Primer


Assertive communication is the sweet spot between passive and aggressive communication. It’s about being honest and clear about your needs and opinions while respecting the rights of others. This skill is crucial for healthy relationships, effective problem-solving, and overall mental well-being. But like any skill, it requires practice. Here’s where GPTs come in.


How GPTs Can Help


Using GPTs to practice assertive communication offers unique advantages:

  1. Non-judgmental Interaction: GPTs don’t judge. You can say anything, and it won’t raise an eyebrow or get offended. This makes it a safe space to practice saying things you might hesitate to say out loud.

  2. Infinite Patience: Unlike humans, GPTs don’t get tired of repetition. You can practice the same scenario as many times as you need without worrying about wearing someone out.

  3. No Resentments: GPTs don’t harbor feelings. They won’t remember if you were unsure or stumbled over your words. Each interaction is a clean slate.


Being Specific: The Key to Effective Practice


One of the critical aspects of GPTs is specificity. When using GPTs, the more specific you are, the better the response; which is a major win for sharpening those assertive communication skills. This specificity trains you to articulate your needs clearly and concisely. For example, instead of saying, "I feel bad when you’re late," you might say, "I feel disrespected when you arrive more than 15 minutes late because it makes me feel like my time isn’t valued."


Script Writing for Difficult Situations


Writing scripts for challenging situations can be incredibly beneficial. Here’s one way to do that with this step-by-step guide (or use the worksheet available below):

  1. Identify the Situation: Define the scenario where you need to practice assertive communication.

  2. Draft Your Script: Write out what you want to say. Be clear and specific.

  3. Consult GPT for Feedback: Enter your script into a GPT and ask for feedback (example: "I want this to be assertive, what feedback do you have?").

  4. Adjust: Adjust your script based on the GPTs feedback.


Example: Setting Boundaries


Let’s say you struggle with setting boundaries with a colleague who frequently interrupts you. Here’s how you can use a GPT to practice:


  1. Scenario: Your colleague interrupts you during meetings.

  2. Draft a Script: "I’ve noticed that you often interrupt me during meetings, which makes it hard for me to share my ideas. I’d appreciate it if you could let me finish speaking before responding."

  3. Consult GPT for Feedback: "I want this script to be assertive, what feedback do you have?"

  4. Adjust: Adjust your script based on the GPTs feedback.

No prompt? No problem


If the idea of working with a script feels too rigid or formal, don't worry—simply engaging with a GPT for everyday tasks offers a golden opportunity to practice your assertive communication skills. Whether you're asking the GPT to help draft an email, plan your day, or brainstorm ideas for a project, each interaction is a chance to be clear, specific, and direct about what you need. By regularly articulating your requests and preferences with precision, you naturally build the confidence and habit of assertive communication, making it easier to transfer these skills to real-life conversations and interactions.


Safety


While GPTs are powerful tools, it's essential to practice safety:

  • Protect Personal Information: Avoid sharing sensitive personal details.

  • Use Reputable Platforms: Ensure the GPT service you’re using is secure and trustworthy.

  • Set Boundaries: Remember, GPTs are tools, not replacements for human interaction or professional therapy.


GPTs offer a unique and innovative way to practice assertive communication. By providing a non-judgmental, patient, and resentment-free environment, they allow you to refine your skills and gain confidence in expressing your needs and opinions. So, go ahead, give it a try, and watch your assertiveness blossom!


Downloadable Resource


To help you get started, I’ve created a downloadable worksheet to walkthrough creating effective GPT prompts for assertive communication; complete with sample scripts and scenarios for practicing assertive communication.







 

Disclaimer: This blog post is crafted with the assistance of Google Gemini and Chat GPT-4 for research and editing purposes. No advertisements or paid affiliations are associated with its content.


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